Psychology deals with the study of our brain functions, emotions, cognition, and the development of relationships between people. Have you ever realised that human behaviour is actually an enigma. We can make predictions about our physical changes but no one knows how our mind will respond in a particular situation. The truth is that we don't have control over our mind. Studying psychology can help people to predict and improve their behaviour. In certain situations we all behave in a similar manner. Why? Did somebody told you do so or was it a natural response of your mind? If it was a natural response then how did your mind acquired it? Is it something you were born with? Confused? Even I'm confused, finding the mysteries hidden in our minds is not a simple process. These questions can be answered theoretically but if you want to find practical answers then you have to experience life till your last heart beat. Lets take a look at some of the most awesome psychological facts and I'm sure that these facts will bring you a little closer to the enigma associated with human mind and behaviour.
1. Kübler-Ross model
This hypothesis is commonly known as "Five stages of grief". Why? Because according to this hypothesis whenever a person comes face to face with the reality of his/her impending death or in any other extreme situation, the person will experience a rush of five different types of emotions. These emotions are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Most of us might have faced these five emotions when we were under some life threatening situation. Other catastrophic situations such as death of a loved person, major rejection, end of a relationship or divorce, and drug addiction can also trigger this five stages of grief. To make this psychological fact a little simpler, lets take an example from our everyday lives. Grieving after a breakup is the most common scenario in this world. Lets see how a person behaves when these five emotions wash over him/her.
a. Denial: In this stage the person is not able to cope with the reality of his/her breakup and denies it. The person thinks that their relationship is not over and may even call his/her Ex.
b. Anger: This stage is dangerous. In this stage the person realises that his/her relationship is really over. If the person is blameless for the breakup then this stage can take an ugly turn. During this stage, the person vents his/her anger on everything around him/her.
c. Bargaining: In this stage the person feels that anger is useless and starts negotiating with his/her partner to start the relationship again. A lot of swearing and promising is involved in this stage. Pleading and begging is the final part of this stage.
d. Depression: When pleading and begging doesn't work, the person sulks into depression. This is a dangerous stage for the person because this stage can not only affect his physical health but it can also affect his mental stability.
e. Acceptance: This is the final stage when the person realises that this world is not fair and his/her depression is not going to change it. So, accept life and move on.
2. The Spotlight Effect
We have the tendency to be conscious of our surroundings. This is a good habit. We know that people around us are watching us but some people become so conscious that they start to behave in a paranoid manner. Such people have the feeling that they are always under the spotlight and even their small mistakes will be judged harshly. This behaviour is mainly due to inferiority complex and in the long run can turn into self-doubt and paranoia. The first thing to do to overcome this effect is simply to switch off the spotlight. Take a look around you? What did you see? Thousands of people like you and me who are busy with their own work and no one has enough time to pay specific attention to you. Even if some of them are watching you, don't think that they are going to eat you up for your small mistakes. Don't overestimate your mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes and you are not the first one nor you will be the last one.
3. The Bystander Effect
Thousands of people are met with accidents daily but only few of them survive. They survive because they are taken to the hospital alive. Let me ask you a simple question. Imagine that two people met with accident at two different locations. The first accident took place near a small bakery and the second accident near a crowded market. So, tell me, out of these two people who will be taken to the hospital first? Simple, you are thinking that the person near the crowded market will be saved first because so many people are around him. I'm sorry to say but I think you should put your thinking caps on because according to the bystander effect, the greater the number of bystanders/observers, it is less likely that any one of them will help. The second man chose the wrong spot for his accident and his life is doomed but the first person who is near the bakery will be saved. Most of the bystanders think like this because of a phenomenon called "Diffusion of Responsibility". Due to this, a person is less likely to take responsibility when other people are present around him. The person wants others to take the responsibility but the problem is even others want some others to take the responsibility.
4. The Cocktail Party Effect
This is a simple psychological fact. Imagine that you are enjoying a crowded party and somebody calls you by your name. What will be your response? You will turn your head to the direction from where your name was called. How did you hear your name in such an noisy atmosphere? Because of your body's natural instinct. This effect states that you can tune out all unnecessary voices and can focus your whole attention on a single voice. This instinct is awesome, isn't it but still there are two unanswered questions regarding this effect. If you can concentrate your attention on a single voice from hundreds of different voices then does this filtering of different voices takes place after we have heard them or even before we have heard them? Feeling confused? Read one more time, you will understand it.
5. The Forer Effect
This effect is also known as the "Barnum effect". Most of us read newspapers daily and like the sports section, national news, and crosswords. Some of us are not all interested in these matters and the sole reason they purchase newspapers is to check their horoscopes. These people are under the influence of Forer effect. People who check horoscopes daily through newspapers believe that their horoscopic predictions are accurate and whatever is happening in their lives now is accurately mentioned in the horoscopes. I can't understand the logic behind this belief. Millions of people read the same newspaper daily, so how can the horoscopic predictions be same for each and every one of them. I don't blame horoscopic lovers but please think seriously about this effect. This effect has forced your brains to think that everything is tailored specifically for you.